How to hide your Autism


If you are the parent of an Autistic child, I'm going to introduce you to a concept that's going to scare the pants off of you:  Your child is going to grow up to be me:

I am an Autistic adult.

Some people are of the belief that Autism can be grown out, or that with the right support and interventions, Autism can be cured or lessened.

If you're one of those people, then I'm about to blow your minds with a second concept: Nobody grows out of Autism and a child cannot be trained out of it.  We just get better at hiding it.

Safe places online for Parents of Autistic children to learn about Autism


If you're of a certain age or younger, I'm betting that a significant portion of your time is spent on Facebook.

I'm also betting that either the moment you had an inkling there was something different about your child, your first stop was the Internet. Then, once you figured it might be Autism, you started searching Facebook for Autism and Asperger's groups.

There's no harm in admitting this, but there might be harm in some of the groups you are in.  There are many, many groups about Autism on Facebook and a lot of them a BAD. Avoid like the plague bad.  They are full of Cureists, Autism Speaks lovers, 'Autism Moms' and so, so many myths about Autism that you could start a Religion.

In light of the Internet awfulness, I thought I'd cobble together a list of safe spaces.  Groups where you can find experienced parents of Autistic children, groups where you can find Autistics ready and willing to offer advice; and groups where you can learn how to Advocate alongside Autistic people.

The great Autism diagnosis cover up: How Health and Education are conspiring to fail Autistic children and their families


"Health and Education Professionals in the UK are, on the whole, dangerously illiterate about Autism"
If you live in the UK and you believe your child is Autistic or displays behaviours you cannot understand, who do you turn to?

Their Health visitor?  The school or Nursery? The GP? The Internet?

In a way, it doesn't really matter, because no matter which direction you turn to, you're going to be met with a mine full of misinformation, Autistic illiteracy and frankly, dangerous neglect.

Talking without words: Communication, Autism and how I needed someone to tell me, that It's OK to be me

When Jodie Eaton from the wonderful site 'Autism, with love and affection' asked me to write an article on Communication and what, growing up, would have helped me, I kind of gulped.  

If you’ve read my Blog before, you’ll notice I talk in the abstract often and include very little detail about myself.  That, I think is related to the trauma and abuse I received as a child.  Most of it was unintentional, some of it was done with love, but all of it is relateable to the experiences of Autistic kids all over the world and throughout history.  We are not understood, so therefore Allistics (Non-Autistics), think it’s acceptable to try to mould us into what they would deem as ‘normal’ children and don’t realise that it’s unacceptable to do this and even harmful.

Writing about this stuff is an extremely difficult thing to do, which is why I’ve avoided it.
So, thanks a bunch Jodie!

Seriously, thank you though, you’ve kind of unwittingly pushed me into writing stuff I need to write about and I think others need to read:

From the age of around 4 or 5, I remember dragging a chair from my bedroom, across the landing and standing on it, looking out the window onto the street below.

Autism Speaks and it's influence on the UK (and the world)



UK readers, or indeed anyone outside of the US might be wondering about the relevance of Autism Speaks, an American Charity, to them?

If you've read my article on the Autism Speaks 'Light it up blue' Facebook frame called 'If you Light it up Blue for Autism, you're supporting Autism Speaks and Autism Speaks doesn't support Autism...' you'll have a potted history of who they are and what they do, or more importantly, don't do, for Autistic people. If you haven't read it and wish to know exactly how Autism Speaks is harming Autistic adults, children and their families, please go check it out.

You might be surprised to know exactly what influence, both direct and indirectly, Autism Speaks has had on UK Governmental policy on Health and specifically Autism. It's really quite scary. And if they can do this in one country, how do you know they haven't done this in yours...

The Mighty, Why is there a divide in the Autism Community? An example of victim blaming


The Mighty posted this article yesterday, which is interesting as it is one in a line of many negative and damaging blogs that they've put out since teaming up with our old friends, Autism Speaks.

Skimming through their specialist Autism section, there is a lot of Autism Speaks rhetoric so it shouldn't be surprising that an article like this one pops up.  But, this one seemed particularly threatening and a perfect example of a common theme Autistics are running into all over, Stockholm Syndrome.

How to ADHD with Jessica McCabe


There are many co-morbid conditions that go hand in hand with Autism and ADHD is one of them, perhaps one of the most significant ones.

Jessica McCabe's fantastic Tedx Talk video will take you on an emotional and witty journey through her past and how ADHD has affected her life, right up to the point where she finally embraced it.

If you Light it up Blue for Autism, you're supporting Autism Speaks and Autism Speaks doesn't support Autism...


You may have noticed a lot of people on Social Media using frames for their profile pictures, it's become a bit of a fad, like: or 'Puppies are great', or 'Facebook frames suck'.  Stuff like that (I may have made the last one up).

Now, I'm usually a calm and placid man, but there is one frame in particular which generally provokes a reaction in me, usually only seen when a member of the Government appears on the television and tells us how lucky we all are (kind of a grab the nearest heavy object and beat the crap out of the screen type reaction).

The Autism Speaks frame... You'll have seen it.  This one:

I do not HAVE Autism


"Language shapes the way people perceive us and treat us.  It translates into actions"
- Daniel Marner, Autistic and Advocate 

I had a conversation/heated debate/argument today, with somebody about a bumper sticker.  (I can hear my wife groaning in the background about getting embroiled in Social Media arguments)

The bumper sticker read:
" I love someone with Autism"
But, how sweet! Right?

No, not really and let me tell you why.

The advent of the Autzi


Humanity has overcome the food chain, and having surpassed all other predators, has now turned to a strange form of cannibalism: humanity preys upon itself. We cull our own herd. We murder our own children. This is what we call “progress” 
 - A.E. Samaan

**Content Warning: Eugenics, Supremacy, Genocide, Nazism**

Functioning Labels: Why you shouldn't be using them (thanks a bunch, Terminology Dudes)


The difference between high functioning autism and low functioning is that high functioning means your deficits are ignored, and low functioning means your assets are ignored.
- Laura Tisoncik, Autism Advocate

So... Autism, what exactly isn't it?


In my article entitled 'So... Autism, what exactly is it' I talked about just that, but what I didn't talk about, was what an uninformed person might think Autism is.  So I'm going to go over some commonly held beliefs and myths and debunk them... Coz they ain't true!

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